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Nobody Can Help You!

That would be the most pessimistic sentence you’ll ever come across. But be with me. At least I won’t give you false hope. Because the truth is: Nobody can help you. You are living your life and most of us have lived their life but they haven’t figured out, and I can assume you are still figuring out most of the things in your life. Maybe you are seeking help but you are not finding that ultimate solution that can put you in a great spot. 

Well, if you are seeking someone to repair your bike, you’ll find that out so easily, I’m not talking about these kinds of things. What I’m going to talk about is more of the psychological world that we live in fragmentary. And that psychological world is not different from the world you live in. That is connected with your thinking and your actions. 

What I’m talking about here is something quite deep. It’s related to values, education and the relation of you to this world. Of you to other people that you don’t even care about. And if you do, you know how much sensitive you are to other person and their life. you can also judge yourself if you are honest enough and say the truth; If your action depends on your self-interest or if you include others in that too.

You’ve got your misery, struggle, fearfulness, a sense of void, loneliness and other things that you can think of for yourself. These are quite deep problems that I’m talking about. We also see its effect on the outward world. We don’t know what maturity is. We don’t know what the right education is. We are confused about career options. We don’t understand what it means by growth and thousands of other things like that. 

You could have listened to other people, that could be anyone, any ideal, guru, leader, spiritual master, politician, etc. You’ve not changed and you are still on the same path that you were before. Though it can appear to you that on a superficial level, you’ve changed but what about the deepest level of your being where you feel responsible as a person, not just for yourself but for others, for nature? Or is it that we are damn self-centered and unaware of the fact that this will cause everyone a hell lot of problems.  

So if we are honest about these things and can say truth to ourselves, to me, that would be the beginning of intelligence because first: you are listening and second: you are seeing something that is true not justifying things as you did before.

I don’t quite sure but I assume that most people know somewhere that nobody is there to help them. But they don’t take the right action because they are afraid somewhere and that fearfulness though justifiable will not do any good to us. Do let me know if that assumption is right enough or if you have a better analysis of that.

The question then would be: Who is there to help you?

No-One.

You are with yourself, figuring out life for yourself. And that figuring out life is not just for you, it’s not a self-centric activity but it’s for others as well. You are then not following any system that promises many things that don’t deliver. 

Each one of us must understand ourselves and our relationship with the world; that is the first step if we want growth for us. 

You figure out the right way of living.

You figure out your relationship with the world.

You figure out your relationship with nature.

And all this, I must say, is not as simple as it sounds.

That’s why most people don’t figure out life for themselves and follow the systems or methods of others that don’t serve our purpose of living. If we don’t know if that system is right enough or that method is right enough, then whatever we do by following that would be disastrous. 

I must say here that don’t now try following what I’m saying because that would also be the cause of conflict but just understand what I’m saying. Don’t follow the opposites of any of the things because that is not what I’ve said. Or rather don’t make any assumptions of what could be the probable thought. If you are still here with me, you could understand how someone’s thought can be misinterpreted and make you suffer if you don’t pay attention to the nuances.

One must ask: how then one will approach this question of figuring out? And that figuring out could be anything. And if we just understand how one must approach the question then the seeing of the question itself solves it. 

Let’s understand why nobody can help you.

Well, that would be the conclusion of what I’m talking about; So we can start from what’s the problem of seeking help from somebody?

You come to me asking ways to quieten the mind or how to stop the chattering of mind and I tell you various ways to quieten your mind and you follow that and you, by effort, in time, reach a point where you can do it for some time. 

Do you think you have solved the problem? Do you think I’ve solved the problem?

The reality of this is: you were seeking something superficial and I’ve given that to you and now you are praising me that I’ve done something. Both are fucked up. You can see what kind of game we all are playing. But you can only see if you are open to see and listen. 

Well, this was just an example of how you think and how you think is how other person as well think because you are the world and the world is you. Both are doing the same thing with little difference on a superficial level.

In that whole process, you came to me and I gave a solution to you. In the end, can you be damn truthful that I or anybody can’t give you that peace? It’s not a thing to be transferred from somebody to another and if anybody promises that at least now you know what they are doing.

If you realize the whole act, you are corrupting that person because what you did was not the right action. And what that person is doing is also not right and hence we’ve created this miserable world. To make someone an authority corrupts you. One must think logically and sanely if we want truth. We must develop this kind of intelligence to see these things without any authority and I think one is capable of seeing everything on its own. If you seek a guru, you will find one but that’s not going to help. You must be responsible for your life and also think about others as well. Goodness can only flower if there is intelligence and creativity.

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